Stupidity

So I had read this story on msnbc. Then I read it to my husband. I essentially stared him down and told him that if I ever caught wind of him participating in something like this, war would be the least of his worries.

I'm never really one to give people ultimatums or threats, but my husband knows guns... he was raised around them and anybody who has been raised around guns knows never to point a gun at someone unless you are willing to possibly take their lives. Never point a gun, whether you think it's loaded or unloaded, unless you are willing to take responsibility for what comes next. In recent history there was a list a mile long of news stories regarding people accidentally shooting others or themselves. They either thought the gun was unloaded but forgot about the chamber, or they thought the safety was on, or they didn't have their finger on the trigger so they thought: "nothing could possibly go wrong".

I understand that when soldiers are faced with something as life altering as war the rules change. As a military spouse you accept that your soldier is going to be off doing things you would rather they didn't. You know they'll be running face first into dangerous situations out in the field. But you never want to hear that your soldier is in danger from his fellow soldiers... his brothers.

So I told my husband, if he is injured because of this stupid game (even if they call it a "trust" activity, I refuse to acknowledge that pointing a weapon at another humans head is a valid activity for gaining trust) I will let him heal then it will require every MP on post to drag me off of him (again, I'm not a violent person, so he knew I wasn't messing around). And if, God forbid, he injures someone else playing this "game" and winds up in military prison don't expect me to come rushing to comfort him.... or visit him.

This may sound harsh, but my husband and I aren't children. I'm on the eve of my 30's and we have two children of our own. I know that when we agreed that he could join the military I signed myself up for countless sleepless nights. But I DID NOT sign up for him checking his brain at our front door when he leaves the house and walking into the world without the common sense God gave him.

Have you ever worried about what your military spouse and his/her battle buddies may be doing while off at war?